Assuming there are two ppl in a relationship… what happens next.. to start with everything that my partner does looks so beautiful so mine… and then a few days or weeks or months later the same things become a pain… can’t understand what i am saying.. here is an example…in the beginning.. when my girlfriend wants to know where i am, what i was doing while i was away… i would say.. wow she is so concerned about me.. she cares and takes interest in what i am doing… cut to three months later date.. and the same questions would start annoying me.. and i might start saying that she is invading my privacy, i do not have any independence in my life… things like this are very common.. but what i am trying to understand is how come two ppl who used to like the same things about each other a few months back now do not want it from each other anymore…

why do i think this happens… i am not sure.. why.. but here is what i think.. to start with our expectation levels are low.. and we are more focussed towards understanding the other person and taking such things as incidents then habits.. and then with time, when things move from a selfless commitment to a relation where its more like a barter system.. where i give for what i get.. things start troubling us.. and we start comparing… and use statements like.. why am i suppposed to compromise all the time.. why do i have to answer all the questions all the time.. and so on…. where is the answer.. is it in another relationship… or some modern age guru would need to take avatar and tell us what needs to be done.. or is it that we all understand what needs to be done.. and we just do not do it !!!!

still thinking….

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ok.. switch over to another thought here….

two ppl in a relationship… both of them claiming that they are giving their 100% to the relationship….and still both of them have a feeling of discomfort and discontent about everything… why… is it because my 100% rarely matches with my partner’s 100%…. so when i say that i need sometime with her everyday talking to her… then i would get content with say an hour perday.. but because of her schedules or whatever… she can manage to gimme 30 minutes.. which is the best that she could do.. and was obviously her 100% and 50% of my expectation… hua na issue… so basically i have to understand that she cannot do anything better then this.. and may be she needs to understand…that she needs to try a li’il harder then those 30 minutes.. maybe she can actually gimme an hour… who knows…

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real time situations…

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but even after knowing then do we really take care of them… i guess not.. why… i think because we are selfish.. and think about us before the other person.. but then why shouldn’t i… i cannot be the one who gives away all the time…

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i dunno if i am making it look complicated.. or relationships are really that complicated… i guess they are not… just that we need to understand…