I am not in a relationship these days.. i am not even seeing anyone for that matter… and this has given me some space and time to think about a lot of things…

SPACE is what i have been thinking about the most.. not being in a relationship has helped me a lot actually.. i could do whatever i wanted to do.. i could just live life on my own terms.. without really being questioned… i would walk at my own pace… i would not have to wait for my girlfriend on the bus stop or outside her house for those loooooong 10 minutes… i would not have to keep talking to her even though my mom was calling me inside the house… i would not have to change myself or my ways just because she is not comfortable with them !!!

well so much for happiness together… i am not saying that being in a relationship is always a pain.. but then there are two very very mature individuals who would be part of the relationship which does not end up in pain !!! and i did not have many opportunities to look at such relationships… no no.. lemme correct myself… i have seen some wonderful relationships… though all of them from outside.. i was not one of the partners in it…

what have i learnt… by being a part of a few relationships and by being just a spectator to the rest… is that we all need SPACE….. we all need to be respected for our individuality and that we want our partner to be a part of our lives without corroding that thin line that we draw inside us which has us as an individual on one side.. and a partner on the other… at times.. these two roles do not match.. or maybe initially they do.. but then with time.. we see that the individual that we were is getting away from the partner we are.. and then who can live away from themself… and we start feeling that strain in the relationship !!!

I could not give my ex-girl any space.. and i could not get any either.. and that made us break-up about and year and a half ago.. just hope that the people who think they are in love with each other… give each other a lot of space in the relationship and respect the individuality of their partner…

let ur partner do what they want to !!! and let them come back to you at the end of the day… let them spend their days they want to… and let them tell them how they spent it… let them face their lives themselves.. and let them come to you when they need to.. and give them a surprise by being there all the time.. never let them look around for you.. be there.. but not in the way of their lives !!!!

enough of gyan !!! phew… ab a long weekend in front of me again.. waiting for a long drive to meerut tommorow… and two weekoffs then.. lets see if i can complete the two books iwanted to read the last weekend 🙂 am one helluva lazy ass i tell u 🙂