Tareekh : 5-April’05
Jagah : Cafe Coffee Day
Waqt : Raat ke 9:30 Baje

Me and Tushar had dinner outside yesterday… and then we went for a walk in sector-18…. went to the cafe coffee day in Centre Stage Mall and that is where this discussion started… though Tushar did not do much other then nodding his head and agreeing to me for most of the points but still I feel it was a good conversation…

ME : Yaar, I want to get a part-time job in McDonalds. No no.. not really McDonalds but a cafe like Barista or Cafe Coffee Day.

Toosh : Good idea… but then we do not have that kinda coffee bars where you would be respected as a professional and ppl would like to get into conversations with you. Not like what we see in TV serials on Star or Zee Cafe where you have a coffee bar and ppl come there, meet friends, and talk over coffee or muffins or donuts and the owner of the cafe or for that matter someone who works there is also a part of your conversations and your friend list….

*and this is where the talkative devil in me came to life, and I started speaking about what i felt and Toosh kud only say hmm or nod his head*

Me : Very true… I can only stand over the counter and serve.. nothing else… but then there is another thought that comes to my mind… why don’t we have new friends being made in such cafes… or for that matter.. how many times do you remember yourself approaching a group or an individual to talk just like that… now, why does that happen…. here is what i feel why that happens :
1) Most guys are looking for women with whom they end up in a dark corner of a street with or in bed with… and not really looking around for friends…
2) Most women know that they are being looked at and approached only to be treated as sex objects.. and definitely do not like to be approached by strangers…
3) The genuine guys also get treated as some road side onlookers who are only looking around for girlfriends.
4) I have not seen a gal ever approaching a guy, probably because she will be treated as a despo or something…
*This is where I stopped*

*afterthoughts*
This is something that happens or does not happen out on the streets, in the malls, in the cafes, in restaurants… as Tushar said rightly that we have so much fear of rejection in our minds that we do not even smile when we have an eye contact with ppl while walking driving… we carry our expressionless face just perfectly during all those moments which otherwise would help us break the ice !!!

I feel that once we start feeling that what we do not have to start off with any relationship whether short or long term thinking that we have to achieve something out of it.. but take it as something that carries on.. something that does not endup in bed or in a car… something that is for your mind and for yourself as a person…

There are a lot of things that I am thinking at the same time right now.. from why don’t we have good thought provoking conversations to making new friends and new places to why don’t we approch people without the fear of being rejected….and i think i have mixed up some of the many thoughts that came to me…

might be continued…
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