Have been thinking over this for a few days now…

Are gurls any different when it comes to choosing a boyfriend and/or a husband as compared to guys when they are on the lookout for a gurlfriend/wife…
I will start with what guys usually look out for… (This is not about me or anyone in specific, but what I have seen and noticed)
Gurlfriend :
~ Should look good, no no.. should look reeealy good…
~ Should be able to go out when we have time…
~ Should be………..
damn !!!! I cannot figure out what guys want from a girlfriend…. oh yes….
~ Should not start talking about commitment and all…
~ Should be open to physical relations…

And when it comes to getting married, we completly change our stands.. and want a different person as a wife…
~ She not being very beautiful is ok, she basically should understand me and my family…
~ Spending time together is essential, but not at the cost of individual space and independence…
~ Should be commited towards me and my family…
~ Should not have any history of affairs…

Strange how we want two completely different persons in our lives at different stages… I guess most of the affairs turn to relationships and then to marriages as the two ppl involved grow together from the first stage to second and so on…

Why such relationships do not work out.. no idea… i guess because the expectations start changing, life becomes different… not too sure though… someone would need to gimme some gyan on this…

Coming back to the main thought… is there is a difference of stands when gurls are looking at boy friends and husbands… Some might agree and some might not.. Some might get angry hearing this, and some might just ignore it…
Boyfriend:
~ Should be smart…
~ Should have a vehicle to roam around in the town…
~ Should have money to spend as well…
~ Should be commited…

Husbands:
~ Should be fairly good looking… Does not really matter if he is very smart or not…
~ Should be career and family oriented…
~ and so on….. not able to find a lot of words here….

i feel i have not been able to write all what we want and need in the points mentioned above.. but the idea is to figure out myself and with the help of a few ppl who read this blog.. how our expectations.. our aims, our needs change at different stages of our lives… at one point of time we are looking forward to just a good time and companionship… though that continues throughout our lives.. but after a while, some other thoughts and expectations take over.. when we start expanding our thoughts to things which would make our life stable and worth living…

i guess its more like having different coloured balls in a big bucket, every colour is a quality that we need in our partner… at one stage of life, we want some colours and and at a later time, we want to shake the bucket and have the other colours too…

I am also waiting for some colours to come to my life.. wonder what kinda would they be 🙂